get to an end where the worries of others are not yours
the worries of others are not ours
if we cannot care for and look after our own first
...
let them deal with theirs as we deal with ours
once we have dealt with ours
we can help them if they want our help
...
otherwise ... let them
- let them not be thrifty if they want to spare nothing
- let them be angry if they want not to laugh